PPP278: Training Elephants – Learned Helplessness vs Limiting Beliefs

I heard a new term the other day, “Learned Helplessness”.

According to Psychology Today, “Learned helplessness occurs when an individual continuously faces a negative, uncontrollable situation and stops trying to change their circumstances, even when they have the ability to do so. For example, a smoker may repeatedly try and fail to quit. He may grow frustrated and come to believe that nothing he does will help, and therefore he stops trying altogether. The perception that one cannot control the situation essentially elicits a passive response to the harm that is occurring.”

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I’ve heard about elephant trainers who trained baby elephants to stay in one place by tying a chain around their feet. No matter how much they struggled and pulled at the chain, they learned they could not move when their foot was tethered. In fact, the more they tried the more painful the chain became on their foot. Over time, the trainer switched from a heavy, strong chain to a simple rope. The result was the same for the elephant. Even though he could have easily broken free, he thought he was stuck.

I am not a doctor or a psychologist. The more I read about Learned Helplessness, the further down the rabbit hole I went. Today’s show will not be an exhaustive look at this concept. I only want to highlight a couple of points that are relevant to us as piano parents.

One more thought from Thomas Edison

I love this quote attributed to Thomas Edison, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Take a look at this wonderful graphic which demonstrates Mr. Edison’s quote so well. 

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